Recently I saw a post from a stay home mum who was saying that she wasn’t afraid to admit that although she absolutely loves and adores her kids, being at home all day everyday can be seriously brain-numbing and lonely. She added that of course, she could be in an uninspiring job working the 9-5 wishing that she was home with the kids, so either way she was doomed!
What I took from her dilemma was regardless of what circumstances you find yourself in, do something you love and gives you joy.
That’s not to say divorce your family or quit your job, instead look for joy in what you do and perhaps incorporate more things in your life so that you do feel fulfilled.
Right now my son JohnnyMax in playing independent with is toy trains, something I’ve been encouraging before Axel was born so he didn’t need mummy so much. Axel is strapped on me in a carrier as I type this. Prior to this he was asleep on the bed and woke up crying as if he had a bad dream. At this moment, instead of being frustrated that I had a moment of “me-time” completely stolen from me, I felt this overwhelming appreciation that I was his safe place. Being able to hold him and settle him immediately, welled my eyes with tears knowing that he 100% relies on me to keep him feeling safe, secure and loved. These are the pockets of joy I’m talking about.
Throughout the day, in-between naps and play, I also get to work on my side hustle which gives me tremendous joy. It gives me the fulfillment of mental stimulation (building a business to fund our family travels and saving for house goals), connection with other adults (my amazing team) and feeling of contribution (financial rewards) whenever it suits me.
In the last 6 months, I was pretty much MIA, busy with the finishing touches of growing a 4kg baby, preparing my home for a homebirth and getting as much family time with our only child before we become a family of 4. It’s these moments when I can step back and still see that my business continues to support our family.
Remember what your focus on grows, so what are you focusing on? If you want more joy, focus on the joy already in your life and you will attract more of it.